I was introduced with anxiety when I moved to NYC when I was 19. It wasn’t even the hustle of the city that made me feel uneasy, it was a person…oddly enough. I would wake up with this extreme nervous feeling as if I was about to speak in front of an audience and it would carry on all day until the second I went to sleep. This was everyday for six months until I knew I had to come back to Miami and reset my mind. I dropped a career in fashion that I was pursuing at the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT) and basically a dream life I had built for myself in New York. I dropped it all because of my anxiety.
I’m 26 now and this feeling comes in waves a different points in my life. Lately, my anxiety has been heightened by active shooters. I get extremely anxious going to the movies, attending concerts and even flying on planes. This is so out of my character because I’m an adventurous person and I say “yes” to pretty much everything.
Being a Libra, I do relate to my sign in the sense that I love balance and when something in my life is off, I get anxious about it not being perfect. I want my family, work, personal and love life to be in synch all the time and if one of those aspects is falling short, I go into “freak out” mode to try to balance it out again. Am I a people pleaser? Definitely. I’m learning with age and maturity to put my foot down and say “no” more often and put my mental health first to cater to my needs before trying to please anyone else.
Anxiety is something that a lot of millennials struggle with, the constant pressure to succeed with so much competition, comparison, over-exposure etc. I’m lucky that I have an amazing support system around me with family and friends that I can talk to about anxiety (most of my friends are wellness-savvy so that helps) but I have found that some things work for me and I’d like to share them with you guys in case someone else is feeling the same!
1. Talk to the RIGHT people: If you have anxiety and you feel like talking to someone, make sure the person you’re talking to actually understands what you’re feeling. For a lot of people, they don’t really get and will tell you things like “just chill out”, “relax” and this is the WORST. Talk to someone who really listens and gives positive advice instead of judging you for not being able to control your emotions.
2. Take time for yourself: Sometimes anxiety can linger for a week straight. In this case, I like to separate myself from big groups or avoid talking to too many people because sometimes my own issues is all I can handle. If I start listening to other people’s problems, I tend to carry them on my shoulders too because I care about these people. Sometimes removing yourself and knowing you have to get mentally strong before giving anyone else advice, is the best thing you can do.
3. Homeopathic remedies: I use aromatherapy on a daily basis to calm down my anxiety. I have all sorts of “stress relief” candles that are infused with eucalyptus and spearmint that naturally calms your body’s nervous system. I also carry essential oils in my purse all the time to smell something calming when my heart starts pounding and my hands start sweating. Lately, I’ve been using RESET oil made in Miami that is made of: almond, lemongrass, tea tree, lavender and bergamot oils. It’s amazing! I also take a “Calm Thoughts” supplement everyday from Whole Foods that naturally reduces anxiety and supports calm focus. Lastly, I carry “Bach” flower remedy drops (also from Whole Foods) that naturally reduces nervous tension in your body with Valerian Root.
4. Meditating: This is something that I recently started doing on a daily basis as recommended by my close friends. Sitting for 30 min a day and listening to a guided meditation is the best thing to keep your mind clear of any negative thoughts that can’t escape your head. I use Spotify guided meditations but there’s also an app called “Headspace” that teaches you to meditate but I don’t like the fact that it’s a British dude speaking softly in my ear haha. I prefer women guiding me through my meditations but to each their own! I recently had a flight where I was extremely nervous and I plugged into the meditation and immediately felt so much better. It’s all about being conscious of your breathing and realizing you’re alive and well! Highly recommend it!
5. Self Love: Lastly, when my anxiety is too high that I start feeling my breathing falling short, I like to seclude myself in my house, play the music that I like, and have a full on spa night. I light candles, make a bath with my favorite bath salts and I put a face mask on and try to forget about whatever is going on in my head. Anxiety usually tackles the people who love to overthink and that’s definitely me. Quieting the mind is so important because half of our thoughts and made up scenarios in our head.
If you suffer from anxiety one thing to keep in mind is that it’s OKAY to feel that way. Sometimes we have no idea why we are anxious, it just comes to us. Other times, we can recognize a problem or difficulty in our lives that causes us anxiety. Either way, it’s totally normal and okay to talk about it with people. I hope my tips can help someone out there who feels the same as I do and it’s important to remember that social media is not real life and no one’s life is perfect!
Thank you to everyone who keeps supporting me! I love this little platform so f*cking much!